Because We Lack True Friendships, Men Are Living Unnecessarily Lonely Lives

by Tony Wyman A little more than a year ago, I shared a table at an Irish pub outside Dayton, Ohio, with three fellow business executives, men all in their 50’s who held high-paying positions in major companies where they had enjoyed long and successful careers that made them well-respected and affluent members of their communities. And all three of them were miserable. None of them had money problems, unfaithful wives, recalcitrant children or failing health.  In fact, from an outsider’s perspective, their lives were pretty much what they should…

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The Robin Williams Effect: Why Celebrity Deaths Lead To An Increase In Suicides

Robin Williams meme with photo of Williams and text from his quote about sadness and why depressed people often make a greater effort to please others

by Tony Wyman After comedian Robin Williams committed suicide on August 11, 2014, the number of people in America who took their own lives increased 10% over the next five months. Suicide prevention experts call this phenomenon “The Robin Williams Effect” and worry that media coverage of a celebrity’s suicide might be the catalyst that pushes others thinking about taking their own lives over the edge.  If celebrities, with all their fame, adoring fans, remarkable wealth and limitless opportunities can’t find happiness, the thinking goes of a person considering suicide,…

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Middle-aged Male Loneliness, The Epidemic No One Wants To Discuss

photo of a man standing on a rocky beach looking at waves breaking out in the ocean. Photo portrays solitude and loneliness.

by Tony Wyman Guys, if you were awake at 2 A.M., so worried or scared about something that you couldn’t sleep, who would you call for emotional support and comforting advice? If you are like most men, the answer to my question is: no one.  And, if you are like most men, you were as uncomfortable reading my question as I was writing it.  When I wrote it, after four or five failed attempts to type out the 28 words in the sentence, I couldn’t help but cringe at the…

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School Shootings Part Two – A Warning About Mishandling The Mental Health Component

photo of an informational display from the post war era, created by the Minnesota Mental Hygiene Society, touting the benefits to individuals and society of mental health treatment and counseling.

by Richard Cameron   In the first of this series on the mental health factors of school shooters, we examined the general outlines of the three main categories or psychological profiles of the (mostly) young men who commit these attacks.  In this follow up report, we’ll set forth the hazards of getting the public into a mindset of amateur diagnoses that could conceivably derail any successful program devised to assist those vulnerable individuals in need of professional counseling and treatment.  Before we do, however, I would just like to forward…

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Holidays: The Season Of Depression Is Upon Us

by J. Lee Holidays: The Season of Depression is Upon Us Depression increases during the months of November through February. Those alone face that reality of loneliness during Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years Eve and Valentines Day. Single people are reminded how alone they are during the season of celebration. They cannot escape the season thanks to advertisements, displays in stores and postings on social media. Holidays can be the loneliest time. Those who are older may have outlived their family members. Seniors may have no one. Some in the military or…

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Survivor Guilt – Identify and Overcome It

by J. Lee SURVIVOR GUILT Survival guilt is real and it is painful. It causes distress for those who have it and for loved ones who see their pain yet are ill-equipped to ease it. Wikipedia: Survivor guilt (or survivor’s guilt; also called survivor syndrome or survivor’s syndrome) is a mental condition that occurs when a person believes they have done something wrong by surviving a traumatic event when others did not. It can be attributed to veterans, crime survivors, those targeted in terrorist attacks, attendees at an event with with mass casualties and during…

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