A NOTEWORTHY RESOLUTION for all upstanding people of faith and otherwise, would be to remove the offensive “f-bomb” from their vocabularies in the upcoming new year. However, this is much more difficult than one would believe; more difficult even, than a diet.
Incorporating something as simple as a word into one’s everyday speech until it has become a habit is almost like breathing. People often say something without realizing that they have verbalized it.
Take, for instance, the word “like“. As a teenager, I was reprimanded countless times by my dad who would say, “Now repeat what you just said to me without using the word, “like”. (I would have first said to him something resembling: “Today at school, the teacher was like, all over the place in math and I just didn’t get it, like, ya know?”).
I now completely understand my dad’s frustration. I also want to point out that the misuse of the word, “like” which is prevalent today among adults and teens alike, is nothing new. These arguments with my dad occurred in the 1970’s.
Cussing is a completely different issue.
Worse yet, people actually take the time to type out obnoxious f-bombs in texts, emails, and on social media because these things are so much a part of our daily lives. That takes more of a concerted effort. Typing out the f-bomb certainly lends credence to the fact that those who do so are the ones who must say the word out loud many times a day. I can vouch for it. Chronic cussers whom I know personally use it in texting. I don’t understand the point.
When you see f-bombs in social media, you can trust that the cussers are also saying it out loud. Do they have children? Do their children hear them say it? Do their children repeat it? And consequently, do they have a problem with their children repeating it? The expression, “Do as I say, not as I do“, does not apply because children who would do what their parents say would be blatantly cussing.
Because it’s universally known that President Trump is a fan of the f-bomb, that makes raising cuss-free children more difficult. Don’t let them point at the president as their example. After all, no doubt other presidents used it as well. Children should aspire to be better than a president, not like him.
What are kids saying?
When I did a stint substitute teaching 8th grade science classes on Fridays in 2012, f-bomb cussing was not uncommon among the students in the hallways. Even as a sub, I’d stop in the hall and walk over to groups, which often included 13-year-olds who towered over me, (They were tall, but I’m also short). I’d say, “Really, did I just hear you say that? It’s what dumpster divers say. Is that what you want to be when you graduate?” And I’d walk away.
I became known as the sub who called students,”dumpster divers“. But other teachers actually thought it was funny. One told me she wanted to do the same but was worried that parents would complain. I explained that I never actually called anyone a dumpster diver. I just asked them if that’s what they wanted to become. (But in this era of heightened political correctness, even that suggestion is pushing the envelope).
I said all that to say this. Many of my readers know me on Facebook. I hold nothing back, including the fact that I am a born again Christian. I allow no cussing on my own Facebook wall and I delete comments with cussing in them. I boot repeat offenders. It is insulting to see grown ups act like dumpster divers, and I don’t want to associate with them.
But think about the irony of this:
We have just gone through the Christmas season. Whether Jesus is part of your life or not, it certainly is hypocritical to put a profile picture or cover photo on Facebook or Twitter about Christ’s birth or the “reason for the season” and then go off triggered in a thread or group and f-bomb people.
Christians will try and justify their sins. It happens often. With cussing they will say either:
“Where in the Bible does it say I cannot cuss?” (First of all, that is insanely stupid to ask, and secondly, the Bible is rife with verses about cursing and the tongue).
“Jesus cursed the fig tree“. (Jesus did not f-bomb a tree. This symbolic verse was His way of pointing out that no fruit was being born. Christians aren’t Christian unless they bear fruit. And no, he did not swear at the tree. He cursed it, meaning, He basically told it that it had no value because it bore no fruit; it was worthless in His eyes).
I would also point out here to any of the self-proclaimed Christians – if they would actually go to church on a regular basis, they would not walk into a sanctuary and remark aloud with an f-bomb about how awesomely beautiful it was.
There is absolutely no justification for a Christian to use the f-bomb.
Yes, I’m judging. I’m not perfect and I know it. I am sorry and I apologize to anyone I have offended with any personal attacks. It is not a Christian trait at all. But f-bombing verbally or in writing is incongruous with Christianity and should not be done. People likely won’t care if I unfriend them, but in 2018, if I see a friend doing it anywhere, so be it. I want to remain separate from the dumpster ways of the world.
I ask you to join me in my New Years resolution to avoid the f-bomb.
Please don’t use it. And if you see Christians using it, maybe tell them how offensive it is that they have lowered their character to the level of a dumpster diver. Or, if you don’t want to start trouble, simply click that “unfriend” option.
It’s about quality, not quantity.